Leadership Mental Health Office Politics Women Work Culture

My Mentor’s Career Advice Made Me Part of the Problem
I thought she was protecting me. Instead, I became what I feared.

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Diane had a way of making even a casual coffee meeting feel like a battlefield strategy session. The espresso machine hissed behind us as she dissected my latest career mistake. I’d shown empathy to a struggling team member, offered flexibility when she was going through a divorce. “Never expose yourself like that,” Diane said, stirring …

Job Search Office Politics Women Work Culture

This Is My Salary — and Why I Tell Women Everywhere
Smashing the salary taboo that keeps women underpaid

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The first time I said my salary out loud, I felt like I had broken an unspoken rule — one that was never meant to protect me. The morning of the tech conference, I sat in my hotel room revising my slides about industry trends. My practiced talking points about cloud architecture felt hollow against …

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My Children Are Right to Reject My Retirement Advice
What I saw as a blueprint for security, they see as a relic of a world that no longer exists

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What I saw as financial security, my children view as outdated thinking. “Traditional retirement planning is dead,” Brandon says, shutting his laptop after scrolling through another article about digital nomads. Across the table, Allie sips her coffee. “The idea of working at one company for decades just to retire with a pension? That world doesn’t …

Office Politics Women Women in Tech Work Culture

The Smartest Woman in the Room Is Always Psychic
Stop calling my hard-won expertise “women’s intuition”

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“Amazing women’s intuition at work here. I love how you just sense these things.” My jaw clenches before I can stop it. I grip my presentation clicker tighter, forcing a polite smile. “Actually, it’s called predictive modeling.” The words come out too sharp, or maybe just sharp enough. I click to the next slide, but …

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I Stopped Being Every Woman’s Mentor — And Helped More Women
How breaking a gender obligation led to better support for everyone

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Sarah cornered me in the break room, coffee in hand, desperation in her eyes. “Just five minutes?” I already knew where this was going. Another mentoring request. Another coffee chat. Another hour I didn’t have. For years, I had been the go-to person for every woman struggling with workplace politics, impostor syndrome, and career roadblocks. …

Office Politics Women Work Culture

What Happened When I Refused to Plan Another Office Party
The backlash was immediate — so were the lessons

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Before I wrote a single line of code, I was writing office birthday cards. “I wanted to chat about your retirement party,” Morgan said, her voice bright with enthusiasm. “The team thought it would be nice if I coordinated it, since I’m the new engineer.” Twenty-five years melted away. I was suddenly back at my first software …